We all want to be successful, rich, and happy, with fulfilling relationships and exciting careers. But why is it that some people achieve those things, while most of everyone else does not? Surely it’s possible to have all those things otherwise we wouldn’t know that we wanted it.
The real question is, what separates successful people who have everything they want in life, and everyone else who can only dream of those things?
You can read any book or watch any interview of a successful person (not necessarily a celebrity, but someone who has attained a well-rounded level of wealth), and they will tell you the secret.
What separates successful people from wishful thinkers is goal setting.
They start with New Year’s Resolutions, but they definitely don’t stop there. They have lists of milestone goals (big events that can be marked in their life), long projects, lifestyle goals, and smaller goals that they want to achieve. But goals are only words on paper until they are attained. Successful people follow an action plan that guides them through the steps to reach each goal.
And they never quit.
2014 is a chance for you to get on the path that you really want to be on and never look back. You have to know what you want and have dogged determination to get it. Trust me, you will never look back and regret breaking old bad habits that held you back and the things you had to give up to gain something much better later.
It’s always 100% worth it, IF YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.
What if you don’t really know what you want? Maybe you know you want something better but you just don’t have a clear picture of it yet. It’s time for you to sit down and do some thinking. There’s no way for you to go anywhere if you don’t have a end in mind! Imagine trying to drive somewhere but you have no idea where you’re going. It’s impossible. You need a destination to type into your GPS in order to get the step by step directions that will lead you there.
New Year’s Resolutions are the destination you put into your GPS. They have to be precise and exactly what you want. If they’re too vague, it’s like putting “restaurants” instead of where you really felt like eating, and being led to McDonald’s instead of The Melting Pot.
Here are some amazing tips for setting New Year’s resolutions from a professional self-development coach, Lucio Del Monte. These are really helpful in obtaining a well-rounded life and achieving real happiness. Money and fitness are not the only things to think about!
Set New Year’s Resolutions in each of these four categories:
Physical goals include all areas of fitness, diet, and sleep. Choose a few specific and doable habits or goals, and don’t make it too hard for yourself. The key to achieving goals is to set actual activities rather than ideas. For example, say, “I will go to the gym at 7:00am on Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday,” instead of, “Get in shape.” See how the first one seems very achievable, rather than the second one is so vague that it seems impossible.
For your Career/Business/School goals, ask yourself what is the next step you need to take to advance in your job? in school? If you have your own business or you want to start your own, what are some improvements you can make? Who can you contact to help you with these goals? What are your specific financial goals and how will you get on the path of achieving these goals? Again, set specific activities that you will DO, not intangible ideas.
Relationship goals apply to your family, friends, and significant other. How can you improve your relationship with your family? Can you spend more time with them? Do you have friends who are a good influence on your goals? Are you getting quality time with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse? What specific activities can you plan so that you can have the opportunity to get closer to these people in your life? Maybe you can go out to dinner or a movie every Tuesday night at 7pm, or have a girls’ night every other weekend with your mom and sister. It may sound like a very structured life at first, but it will be so rewarding when you see problem areas in your life improve.
Spiritual goals involve your inner self. How would you like to improve your personality and strengthen your character? This is the opportunity for you to really sit down and define your core values. What are the qualities in your role models that you want to mimic in yourself? What kind of adjustments can you make to improve yourself and also be a good influence on others? If you are religious, you can examine your faith and see if you are a good representation of it. What can you do differently that will have a positive effect on your life? Remember to come up with activities that will help you reach the ideal you have in mind.
Having a few goals in each category will help you keep a balanced life and improve all areas of your happiness. Behavior change is unnatural, so it will feel a little weird at first when you take on these new habits, but it will pay off!
In order to KEEP your New Year’s Resolutions, review them every week or so, and have pictures or other things that remind you of those goals. For instance, the lock screen saver of my phone is always a goal that I want to attain, whether it’s physical fitness, or keeping to a diet, or aiming to have more adventurous fun in my life. I change the picture often enough to keep my attention, and I find it works really well!
At the beginning of every month, review last month’s goals, cross off the ones you did (my favorite part!!) and WRITE NEW ONES. Keep making new goals every month that follow the main plan you have for yourself. Before you know it your life will be changed for the better in so many ways.
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